15 Ways to be an Authoritative Parent

We’ve all done it – screamed at our child in a moment of frustration.  Even if we weren’t yelling, we’ve said some damaging things, such as “Because I told you so, that’s why!”, and “Well, when you are the dad then you get to make the rules!”, or my personal favorite, “Stop crying or I will give you something to cry about!”

These statements are more harmful than good.  They do nothing to help a child work through whatever was the issue in the first place, but instead, they give an ultimatum:  I am right, you are wrong, end of story. They also undermine any discipline you will provide down the road.

It is almost painfully obvious that the best style of parenting is authoritative parenting.

But what if we are a long way from being an authoritative parent?  What if our parenting style mimics permissive parenting? What if we relate to authoritarian parenting, and bark orders at our children like a drill-sergeant, rather than a loving momma?

It is not easy to parent.  It is self-sacrificing.  It is time-consuming.  It is repetitive.  It is exhaustingContinue reading