Seven Steps to Bonding with Your Baby
Your little bundle of joy has finally arrived! You look at him, lovingly, as he snoozes in his little bassinette, oblivious to the world around him. You notice his sweet breathing patterns, the little baby noises he makes, his cute little cheeks, adorable little dimples, perfect little lips. Your heart swells with love.
But you can’t help but wonder….
I remember that very same feeling, when my husband and I brought our oldest home from the hospital. He was asleep, wrapped in a blanket on the living room floor. My husband was stretched out in front of him, face propped in his hands, just admiring his brand new son. He looks over at me with a goofy smile on his face and says “Now what?”
Now what indeed!
Parenting starts the same way nearly every adventure begins….by building a relationship.
If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I’d take more hikes and fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging and less tugging. – Diane Loomans
Developing a Strong Parent-Child Relationship
A mother hears her newborn baby cry, and responds immediately. She knows his cries, and knows this cry means he’s hungry. She changes his wet diaper and settles in to nurse him.
A father hears his four-year-old daughter crying in another room and finds her snuggling a stuffed animal her mother had given her. Mom is away on a business trip. Dad scoops his daughter up in his arms and strokes her head, while patiently listening to her concerns. He validates each of her feelings with words like “Oh I know, honey, I miss mommy too”, and “Mommy is so special, isn’t she?”
What do these two scenarios have in common? They help build the parent-child relationship.
Making Mommas dedicates 2017 to the Parent-Child Bond
For the last 18 years, sometimes to the dismay of my husband, my life has been all about my children. I have always put everything I had in to that parent-child relationship. Everything in my day-to-day has always revolved around them, even before I was a stay-at-home mom. Especially then.
It’s always tough, to balance work and family. Any mom can tell you that. Even stay-at-home moms have work they have to do, unless they have house cleaners, grounds keepers and cooks. To balance all of those household responsibilities with your children’s needs is not easy. Continue reading