If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I’d take more hikes and fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging and less tugging. – Diane Loomans
Developing a Strong Parent-Child Relationship
A mother hears her newborn baby cry, and responds immediately. She knows his cries, and knows this cry means he’s hungry. She changes his wet diaper and settles in to nurse him.
A father hears his four-year-old daughter crying in another room and finds her snuggling a stuffed animal her mother had given her. Mom is away on a business trip. Dad scoops his daughter up in his arms and strokes her head, while patiently listening to her concerns. He validates each of her feelings with words like “Oh I know, honey, I miss mommy too”, and “Mommy is so special, isn’t she?”
What do these two scenarios have in common? They help build the parent-child relationship.
Making Mommas dedicates 2017 to the Parent-Child Bond
For the last 18 years, sometimes to the dismay of my husband, my life has been all about my children. I have always put everything I had in to that parent-child relationship. Everything in my day-to-day has always revolved around them, even before I was a stay-at-home mom. Especially then.
It’s always tough, to balance work and family. Any mom can tell you that. Even stay-at-home moms have work they have to do, unless they have house cleaners, grounds keepers and cooks. To balance all of those household responsibilities with your children’s needs is not easy. Continue reading
Need some inspiration for Holiday Traditions? Here’s a list of my family traditions. Have fun!
Family traditions are important. And fun. But it’s hard, when you are newly married, to meld your family traditions with your husband’s. My husband and I have been doing this for twenty years now, so we’ve got it down!
Not only did we have to find a way to meld our traditions together, but we had to do away with some 🙁 and add new ones. It’s been trial and error over the years, but I think we have our Christmas traditions established now!
Why are traditions so important? The same reason why everything else is so important – because it builds a relationship with your child. It is a way to spend time together.
I get told so very many times, and so does my husband, that we are amazing parents. That our boys are so very awesome. (They are!) And that they wish there were more kids like our kids in this world. That kids now-a-days……well, I’m sure you can complete that sentence for me. It’s one reason why folks have told me I should write a blog.
My husband and I always laugh. And we have spent some time musing over this. Why are our kids so amazing? Most of it, honestly, is their own doing. It is their own personalities and character that makes them so wonderful.
And we have nothing to do with that – no control over that. Who knows how the youngest three will turn out?!? Will my husband and I still be such good parents if we have one wild child? One little renegade coming up to throw the whole thing off? Because, I think we do! And oddly enough, he is the youngest of all the boys, the youngest twin.
We did, in all of our musings, though, decide that we do stand out from other parents in one simple way. There is one thing we do that we don’t see very many other parents doing. Continue reading
- Involve them in as many preparations as you can – gift wrapping, shopping, baking, etc.
- Eat at least one meal together every day.
- Pray together every night.
- Play outside! And be active – don’t just watch them. Run with them, swing with them, build a snowman with them, etc.
- Read together.
- Go sledding, skiing, snowmobiling or ice skating!
- Do household chores together, such as the dishes.
- Play a board game together.
- Engage your child in free or imaginative play, and then follow his/her lead – play what they want to play.
- Go for walks together.
- Go to the Library together.
- Spend time playing with and talking to your child while he/she is taking a bath.
- Watch a movie together – the Christmas classics are great!
- Sing together – or better yet, go Christmas Caroling!
- Go to church together.
- Volunteer together or do something nice for someone else together.
- Play with your cat/dog together.
- Make something for someone together. Pinterest has wonderful ideas!
- Visit a family member together.
- Take a class together, such as quilting or woodworking.
- Go out to eat, just you and your child.
- Go to his/her athletic event (basketball, hockey, etc.), concert or program.
- Watch Sunday or Monday Night Football together.
- Cook dinner together.
- Go for a drive – especially if you have a teenager – it’s the best place to have a good conversation. 🙂
- And finally, build Christmas Traditions together.
Any more ideas? Leave them in the comments!